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Being Present – One of my key personal goals

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I spent much of 2015 launching a business in China, as a result I spent a lot of time there, and when I wasn’t there it felt like I was always on email, we chat, conference calls.  One of the things I realized and people made me realize was that even when I was in person, I wasn’t present.  I really started realizing this when I starting forgetting important moments that I was a part of – which told me that while I might have been there physically, my mind was somewhere else.  Around the same time I realize this was becoming a problem, I also noticed an increase used of social media and other apps on my smart phone.  It almost become a routine, a part of my life.  I remember one time I was home with my son, after being gone for about a week, and after playing for about 20-30 minutes, I reached for my phone and mindlessly went on twitter.  At that moment, I realized there is nothing in the world that was as important as being present at that moment with my son.  I spent a lot of time researching this and spoke to a lot of my friends and colleagues and realized it was a pretty rampant problem.  There is a ton of information out there, but ultimately it is about what is right for you, your lifestyle, and how you aspire to live.
Here are the changes I made which really worked for me.  I feel more in control of my life and attention span, and genuinely feel happier.  I didn’t do this all at once, but over a few months as I was monitoring my own behavior and analyzing the pros/cons and benefits.
1. Deleted my facebook account – I was spending a lot of time on Facebook during moments of idle time…taxi rides, airports, etc..I realized it was creating a lot of subconscious noise in my head about a lot of people who were really no longer in my life.  If they were in my life, they would be in my life.  I know it seems slightly drastic, my friends freaked out, but after a month it was fine.  As a result, I only thought of the people who were in my life and I wanted to keep in touch with.  I have done better with actively keeping in touch with people, and actually email/phone more, but it will always feel like a WIP.  I certainly am missing out in keeping in touch with people and seeing certain updates and pictures, but overall it is been one of the better decisions I have made.  If you don’t want to be as extreme as this, another thing a few of my friends have done is to delete the app off of their phone, so they can only access when they are on a computer
2. Deleted twitter off of my phone – I like twitter a lot, and get a lot of my news, info, articles, etc., but I was going on twitter a LOT, almost in a mindless way.  I still go on twitter, but only when I am on my computer.  I do miss it a bit, but I see how much more present I am in those idle moments, when I could be thinking or relaxing, instead of mindlessly going online to look at something I probably wasn’t even paying that much attention to in the first place
3. Keep my phone in my pocket during meals w/ people – This is a no-brainer, but difficult to execute.  I see it around me all the time, and it is annoying.  When I go to meals with people I would hope that we could spend the time together, and I realized I wasn’t doing that.  My sister and wife brought this up a lot, first it was annoying to them, then they said it was flat out dis-respectful.  I would give myself a B right now, but I am getting there.  This is a really easy fix, just put your phone in your pocket and don’t look at it tip you are done.  Nothing that important is going to happen in that one hour meal, and if you are making plans to eat with people, then eat with people.
4. Phone out of bedroom at night (this is a WIP) – This is something I am vey excited about, and working on.  Unfortunately, phones have everything – music, alarms, books, etc…so I had to unwrap all of that out of my phone and take it back to the old school — alarm clock, magazines or kindle (funny that this is old school).  I believe this and next point are the key, if you can close your day off without being on your phone and wake up without looking at your phone, you have won 80% of the battle, and can at least have some important time to yourself.
5. Don’t look at phone first thing in the morning (dependent on #4) – This is tough, but I am very much focusing on this.  Starting the day without looking at social media, emails, etc…I usually like to go for a run, so to control what I look at is the key.  I like to listen to podcasts when I run, and that is what I do, then when I am done and hydrating, I will look at emails.  I am trying to get the point where my whole morning from work out to breakfast is without any kind of social media or email.
Thats it — this has helped me a lot, I feel better, lighter, and more in control.  I feel pro-active, not re-active. Just like anything you are trying to give up, it is difficult…but the good thing is you can try a one thing at a time….
Would love to hear anything that you might do

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January 14, 2016 at 9:57 pm

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Love the creativity behind Alyssa Milano’s (@Alyssa_Milano) sex tape

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I am a huge fan of Alyssa Milano and Funny or Die…and appreciate the creativity they used to discuss something a lot of people don’t know anything about.

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September 5, 2013 at 2:18 am

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Good advice from Ashton Kutcher

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This was probably not the right forum for Ashton to give this kind of advice (Teen Choice Awards), although this was the audience he needed to give it to.  I am a fan of Ashton, he doesn’t care what people think, and constantly is re-inventing himself and ahead of the wheel (atleast from a business perspective).  Anyways, I think this was really good advice that I hope the kids listening although it probably went in one ear and out of the other.

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August 12, 2013 at 8:36 pm

A Final Embrace. #Bangladesh #Cheaplabor #Life

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My wife sent me this article this afternoon from the manufacturing wreckage that has been happening in Bangladesh this past week.  It is a horrific reminder that ‘cheap labor’ in developing countries are also people who have lives, who have love, who have dreams.  I hope we can think about that the next time we wear our Nikes, A&F, and other brands that are really commodities that support indentured service.  Ignorance is bliss.  Life is not cheap.

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May 17, 2013 at 12:01 am

Charles Ramsey #DeadGiveaway AUTOTONED! #hero #lovethis

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May 8, 2013 at 11:06 pm

One of my favorite quotes from Steve Jobs….

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“So when you grow up, if you spend your life trying not to bounce into walls, just inheriting what you get, you gotta know your life can be a lot broader than that. Once you realize one simple thing: Everything around you that you call life was made by people who are no smarter than you. And you can change it. You can influence it. You can build your own things that other people can use”steve

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February 15, 2013 at 11:37 pm

The happiest DJ in the world….(the power of music)

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Love the power of music.

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February 6, 2013 at 11:36 pm